At the end of my interview with Ocea Demer, which is over the phone, she succinctly and correctly scans my body and tells me every physical issue I have, including a kidney problem nobody knows about. The only thing she’s missing is my chronic headaches, but the day I speak with her I don’t have one.
Ocea strikes me as a multi-faceted person. Though her primary function is that of a healer, she is also a lover of children, animals, nature, and has a special place for people with Down Syndrome. She is an activist, was a master plumber, and spent years on the road with musicians. She is also a mystic, a seeker and a passionate proponent of true consciousness, facing our fears, learning, listening.
She began healing when she was three. When I ask her how she learned, she tells me that although her Grandmother used to heal her as a baby, she never really learned, per se; she remembered. In fact she says she remembers every healing modality that has ever been. She was toning into someone (the way I understand it, she makes sounds that correspond to different chakras or organs), and they told her she was practicing a sufi healing method. She has been doing it for years and years and had no idea what it was called; she just knew it. As a child she was just following her instincts, was able to heal other children and animals who were suffering.
At fifteen she came out as a lesbian with a powerful and supportive group of women. With their help she was able to really expand into her own abilities which became so intense that she would walk down the streets and see every ailment, both emotional and physical that were affecting people. It became too much, and she ended up in Seattle where she met a shaman who showed her how to close, to protect herself. She tells me that being an open vessel was very difficult and that once she had the skills to control that aspect of herself she had a much easier time.
There was a time in her life where she was in airports with frequency, and began healing people who were waiting at the terminals. She has never been turned away by anyone. Eventually she did it so much that she was known as the airport healer. She says she didn’t seek it out. She would get an impression that a person had a certain ailment and try to ignore it. If the impulse to help them persisted, she would approach them, tell them what was wrong with them and ask if she could help. I imagine all the times I’ve had shoulder or back pain, or some awful headache while waiting in an airport. I wouldn’t turn her down either.
She’s straightforward about her ability, but humble too. She knows she’s special and she’s grateful, but it doesn’t belong to her which is why she doesn’t charge for it. She charges for body work which is a separate skill, and something almost everyone needs. She has taken care of many musicians, and has been backstage for the CMAs and Grammies multiple times, healing anyone who needs it. Whether it’s a tech or the guys from Linkin Park, she enjoys the environment and feels she’s contributing. She likens herself to musicians, relates to them. They aren’t being paid for the music, she says, they would do it anyway. They’re actually being paid for everything they had to do to rise, to get where they are. Same with her. Besides, she loves healing the healers.
Country musician Chely Wright credits Ocea with telling her to go to her gynecologist immediately during a healing session. As a result her cancer of the cervix was caught and treated. For her part Ocea says she just got the message while working on Chely, didn’t quite know what it was about, only knew it was urgent. She has been profiled in Allure magazine as one of the best kept secrets of the stars, and on a more personal note, Ocea correctly predicted not only my friend Shandra’s exact due date, but her friend’s as well. Shandra says when her friend Anna went into labor on Ocea’s day she thought, uh-oh better get ready, and sure enough….
All that said, Ocea is not branded like a Byron Katie, or a Caroline Myss, thought she possesses the same talents. She’s not sure how she would do it, and says she would need a handler because the exchange of money makes her uncomfortable.
She’s not a fan of the New Age Movement because of the distance it has put between people and their potential teachers. She can’t afford to pay 5000 dollars to attend a seminar, a thing she would love to do. Also, the training sessions and then subsequent titles given out to people don’t sit well with her. You can’t take a two day class on Reiki and be pronounced a master. You aren’t a master until you’ve lived many years studying. Mother Teresa was a master, Aunty Margaret was a master. Throwing that word around doesn’t do anyone any good, and is misleading.
In closing, she tells me that I need to spend more time outside. We all do. We’re too disconnected from the Earth. Our planet is vibrant and alive and magical. When we put our feet into the dirt, we tickle the Earth’s belly. Spend more time looking at flowers and let them share their beauty with us. We need to project and reflect all the majesty around us and our planet will grow even more powerful and incredible. If we continue to project negativity, the Earth will be sad. And talk to our kids; tell them about everything that available. Listen to them, begin a new dialogue and stop with all of the drugs that separate us from our emotions and dull our human experience. Wake up, she says. We need to wake up.
You can contact Ocea Demer at firstname.lastname@example.org
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